Chit Chat 2023

[Suuper-san]

yup I'm hoping to have a cheap wedding if I ever get that far with a relationship XD
although that would also depend on the wishes of my fiancee as well XD

@Slam missed your previous comment about the art classes, hope they go well! and yeah that sounds like a swell setup you've got do you use them all the time?

@lego good to see you around and kicking

[Coryn]

Well, I quickly discovered that if you have living relatives, it's only a matter of time before they start trying to take control of the process, lol

Most things were worked out between my wife and I, but we had similar vision of scope from the start. There was a lot of keeping up with things though. At the beginning you have to lay out all the things you want, and hop to it because everything needs to be booked a year in advance (that may have improved now that we're farther away from quarantine).

But you have to get the venue first and set a date. After that you can contact everyone else you'll need (bakery, DJ, flowershop, catering, photographer). They'll all put you in the calendar, but then it's the waiting game until they will let you make decisions about 6 months ahead of time. Then a few weeks before the date all the bills come through, which is its own hassle.

Then of course you have to get save the dates and invitations, coordinate with who's going to be in the wedding party, the officiant (if you need one where you live or just want one), suits, dresses, accessories. Do you have to provide tables? Chairs? Silverware? Who's setting it up?

Then there's rehearsal the day before, which for me was the peak of the stress, and assuming you've done everything right the day itself will go smooth, but it's basically at least a year of having a part time wedding planning job.

That being said, if you have the cash to hire someone to do everything for you, be my guest. But as costly as things can get, shooting for smaller is my suggestion.

[legomaestro]

Jeez Louise I might just elope lel hahaha. How was your photographer by the way? Curious on that front

@suuper it's been a minute. By the by I was going to contact you on the phone more but I lost my phone literally 24 hours after you got in touch. Hope Greece was cool haha

[Suuper-san]

@coryn just hearing all that makes me get panicky lol it's amazing anyone can get through it :P

@lego oh no! did you find it in the end???
yup Greece was nice although I didn't get as much drawing done as I'd hoped XD

[legomaestro]

Nope and the thing is I didn't do anything. I just literally got out of my bus and it was gone. It rang for 24 hours and then bye bye hahaha. Well, it kept in time. I typically need a new phone every year so yeah *facepalm*

Haha well at least you got a holiday. Did you feel inspired at least? Or well rested? How was the food?

[Suuper-san]

ah too bad...I'm always paranoid I'll lose my phone but so far I've managed to keep it on me XD

food was nice we ate at restaurants a bit more than usual. it was our first holiday in a couple years thanks to covid so it was more a crash than an unwind, we came home feeling like we could do with another holiday XD
as far as inspiration goes I'm sort of always inspired, but these days it's the motivation that's the issue, like I just can't get going like i used to and draw for hours. it takes a lot of effort. But I might almost be getting through that.

[anonymous]

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[Suuper-san]

Yup my wacom is my weapon of choice at the moment as well
And yeah I think the choice of apps can really make that difference, especially if you've got a strong preference for one over another.

Are they free/online courses? anything worth sharing? might get a couple of us involved as well would be cool.

[IndigoDoll90]

I have a Huion tablet which my boyfriend gave me for drawing on my desktop. He's got a Wacom tablet but it seems way too big for me. Back when I was in school I use to use the Adobe cloud but it's just too expensive. Currently I use a free program similar to clip studio paint called krita for drawing on the computer and it seems to work good for me. Im trying to get my bf into the free programs as well.

[Coryn]

@Lego: Our photographer did well. Met her since she was a friend of a friend. Didn't get a lot of shots from the reception after the ceremonial stuff was over (dances, toasts, cake, etc.) but that's no big deal.

Being directed for photos is never that fun, but we got through okay. I blame the general stress more than anything. I hadn't released the tesion in my body yet so I look pretty stiff, lol

[anonymous]

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[Suuper-san]

I was just thinking about the MR Canon and wondering....surely it's big enough to have its own board or sub-board? Like in collabs or something?
It would make it useful to compile all the loose threads together in one place?
Just a thought

[IndigoDoll90]

Well, I quickly discovered that if you have living relatives, it's only a matter of time before they start trying to take control of the process, lol

Most things were worked out between my wife and I, but we had similar vision of scope from the start. There was a lot of keeping up with things though. At the beginning you have to lay out all the things you want, and hop to it because everything needs to be booked a year in advance (that may have improved now that we're farther away from quarantine).

But you have to get the venue first and set a date. After that you can contact everyone else you'll need (bakery, DJ, flowershop, catering, photographer). They'll all put you in the calendar, but then it's the waiting game until they will let you make decisions about 6 months ahead of time. Then a few weeks before the date all the bills come through, which is its own hassle.

Then of course you have to get save the dates and invitations, coordinate with who's going to be in the wedding party, the officiant (if you need one where you live or just want one), suits, dresses, accessories. Do you have to provide tables? Chairs? Silverware? Who's setting it up?

Then there's rehearsal the day before, which for me was the peak of the stress, and assuming you've done everything right the day itself will go smooth, but it's basically at least a year of having a part time wedding planning job.

That being said, if you have the cash to hire someone to do everything for you, be my guest. But as costly as things can get, shooting for smaller is my suggestion.

I've always wanted a simple wedding like my parents minus the getting married in secret. Kind of told my boyfriend my plans but not entirely sure what he thinks. I did tell him how I wanted to get married by a judge like my parents but he wants a church pastor instead, which I guess will be okay. I really want to have an outdoor wedding at the local park but my plan is to get married not this spring but maybe next spring in April so it will depend on the weather. If we have to we will wedding indoors maybe at a church but not entirely sure. Hopefully since I want simple wedding it won't cost that much when I do marry. Also I already plan on having my father be the photographer so that will save money on pictures. Anyway my bf and I are not in much of a rush to marry which is why it will probably be a year or so until we do marry. Besides we need to both learn to be more responsible first.

[Coryn]

@Suuper: At this point, probably. But unfortunately I can't make a board, and Hasith has always been resistant to new boards without a major demand. This is why I stickied the guide topic with its links.

@Indigo: we had the same dilemma with the weather. Ultimately we found a venue with big windows so it felt outdoorsy even though we were completely enclosed.

Church weddings unfortunately still aren't cheap, depending where you go. From my friends who have had one, they're always surprised how much the priest charges. Not to disuade you. Just keep it in mind when planning.

[Suuper-san]

fair enough, it's not like we're struggling to find things