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Messages - IndigoDoll90

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MR Pub / Re: Chit Chat 2023
« on: January 31, 2023, 09:38:07 AM »
Well, I quickly discovered that if you have living relatives, it's only a matter of time before they start trying to take control of the process, lol

Most things were worked out between my wife and I, but we had similar vision of scope from the start. There was a lot of keeping up with things though. At the beginning you have to lay out all the things you want, and hop to it because everything needs to be booked a year in advance (that may have improved now that we're farther away from quarantine).

But you have to get the venue first and set a date. After that you can contact everyone else you'll need (bakery, DJ, flowershop, catering, photographer). They'll all put you in the calendar, but then it's the waiting game until they will let you make decisions about 6 months ahead of time. Then a few weeks before the date all the bills come through, which is its own hassle.

Then of course you have to get save the dates and invitations, coordinate with who's going to be in the wedding party, the officiant (if you need one where you live or just want one), suits, dresses, accessories. Do you have to provide tables? Chairs? Silverware? Who's setting it up?

Then there's rehearsal the day before, which for me was the peak of the stress, and assuming you've done everything right the day itself will go smooth, but it's basically at least a year of having a part time wedding planning job.

That being said, if you have the cash to hire someone to do everything for you, be my guest. But as costly as things can get, shooting for smaller is my suggestion.

I've always wanted a simple wedding like my parents minus the getting married in secret. Kind of told my boyfriend my plans but not entirely sure what he thinks. I did tell him how I wanted to get married by a judge like my parents but he wants a church pastor instead, which I guess will be okay. I really want to have an outdoor wedding at the local park but my plan is to get married not this spring but maybe next spring in April so it will depend on the weather. If we have to we will wedding indoors maybe at a church but not entirely sure. Hopefully since I want simple wedding it won't cost that much when I do marry. Also I already plan on having my father be the photographer so that will save money on pictures. Anyway my bf and I are not in much of a rush to marry which is why it will probably be a year or so until we do marry. Besides we need to both learn to be more responsible first.

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MR Pub / Re: Chit Chat 2023
« on: January 29, 2023, 10:31:33 AM »
I have a Huion tablet which my boyfriend gave me for drawing on my desktop. He's got a Wacom tablet but it seems way too big for me. Back when I was in school I use to use the Adobe cloud but it's just too expensive. Currently I use a free program similar to clip studio paint called krita for drawing on the computer and it seems to work good for me. Im trying to get my bf into the free programs as well.

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MR Pub / Re: Chit Chat 2023
« on: January 25, 2023, 05:28:39 PM »
I'm kind of the same way with computers. Unfortunately since the move haven't been able to spend any on electronics. Besides I got a future to think about and start saving up for. Though my bf and I are in no rush to marry and have kids we are aware of the possibility and depending on how many kids we end up having might end up needing a bigger place so it's best we save up now than later. Also a wedding isn't cheap either and my dad has already said my bf and I are going to have pay for the wedding ourselves. Besides I find it a sexist tradition that the father of the bride has to pay for the wedding so we have that already planned. Anyway finally got an art studio set up in a corner of the bedroom. Nice to finally have the room for one and have one set up. Now to get to drawing more.

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break Room / Re: The Status Of Our Fellow Raiders
« on: January 14, 2023, 12:13:10 PM »
Luckily my mom said she will buy the desk for me probably next week or the week after. And yeah I'm more of a casual gamer myself. Play more for the fun of it then to compete. Still it would be a nice skill to learn to build my own pc. Also maybe when I get my art studio set up I will get back into sewing. Still need to finish sewing a reusable bag I started. Starting to feel more confident now that I know I'm just bored and need stuff to do and now want to learn new stuff.

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break Room / Re: The Status Of Our Fellow Raiders
« on: January 14, 2023, 09:47:24 AM »
Still thats pretty cool. I have a prebuilt setup myself. I want to someday build my own PC but don't have money besides I would have to look up some tutorials and stuff on how to build a pc. It would be a good learning experience to build my own pc but bills and rent come first. Had to stop spending my money on video games since the move because I just don't have the money at the moment. That reminds me trying to get an art studio set up in a corner of the bedroom but could kind of use a desk. Seen a nice one at Target for $50 but currently don't even have that much to spare since I still got bills and rent for the month to pay.

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break Room / Re: The Status Of Our Fellow Raiders
« on: January 13, 2023, 08:58:58 AM »
Sorry about that. I'll stop. Other people can't deal with my low self esteem anyway and can't seem to keep friends due to low self esteem. Talked to my counselor she says I'm just making up excuses because I'm bored with current job. Working at restaurant isn't my dream job not to mention not a very creative job. It's a good start and all but now that I've been there for a few years I feel it's time I move on. As for my short comic feeling kind of like I can't think of a good idea for a comic just a few pages long.

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break Room / Re: The Status Of Our Fellow Raiders
« on: January 12, 2023, 10:49:34 AM »
I have heard of the theory of multiple intelligence but it's just a theory and there are people who are critical of it. However, I have noticed a majority of people are either good at reading writing or math but not so good at the other. For example one of my older sisters is good at math while not so good at reading. Not entirely sure but think it has to do with the left side and right side of the brain. Also there are some people like my one nephew who are good at both math and reading and writing. I tend to be good at both reading and writing and math myself and it seems my dad is the same way. I was surprised I was able to remember some of the math I learned in high school when in college. Actually as long as I applied myself my grades in college were actually good. Still I feel stupid most of the time and brush stuff like that aside because of the fact that I was labeled as adhd and autistic. Besides I did fail some classes even in college. Anyway I'm not entirely sure I believe in the theory of multiple intelligence since it is just a theory. But maybe you are right and iq isn't a good way to measure intelligence either but if that's so then how do you measure intelligence. Also that doesn't change the fact that there are people who think people with adhd and autism are stupid and maybe they are right not entirely sure. And I don't exactly see how adhd and autism are useful if they are. And also from what I undstand about people with autism they can't learn social skills and if they do its very slowly. How is that a good thing?

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break Room / Re: The Status Of Our Fellow Raiders
« on: January 12, 2023, 06:45:57 AM »
Sorry if this sounds insulting but doesn't having adhd and autism make you stupid. That's what most people think of autism and adhd anyway right.

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break Room / Re: The Status Of Our Fellow Raiders
« on: January 11, 2023, 03:49:36 PM »
I'm not entirely sure how to stop feeling sorry for myself either. Been so worried lately and not entirely sure what to do. Doesn't help that I like feeling worried as stupid as that sounds.

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break Room / Re: The Status Of Our Fellow Raiders
« on: January 10, 2023, 08:39:48 AM »
I've been in therapy for several years now. Apparently as weird as this may sound I tend to like to feel sorry for myself. Don't entirely know why but it might have something to do with the fact that I got a lot of attention when sad growing up.

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break Room / Re: The Status Of Our Fellow Raiders
« on: January 08, 2023, 08:35:09 AM »
Still I feel as though ADHD isn't something I can accept. Though I always wanted to be different I always wanted to be different in a good way not a bad way. I'm still kind of seeing ADHD as a bad thing. Even if there are people who are sucecssful with ADHD I'm still not impressed by it because they still have ADHD no matter what they achieve. It's just hard for me to accept having ADHD for some reason.

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break Room / Re: The Status Of Our Fellow Raiders
« on: January 07, 2023, 08:37:21 AM »
I never really thought of it like that and I've heard about people being successful despite their disability but I always brushed it off because they still have a disability despite that so it just wouldn't impress me that much. I also use to have problems with my height I'm barely 5 feet tall which even for a woman is a bit on the short side though not by much when you consider the average woman is about 5 foot 3. Still growing up I had low self esteem about being short. I eventually realized though that height has nothing to do with how successful you are and besides there is nothing I can change about my height. I inherited my short size from my dad's side of the family. My dad is only about 5 foot 7 which for a man is also a bit on the short side. I learned over the years to appreciate that I take so much after my dad since he is also rather creative. Also I'm starting to remember that growing up he was the more supportive parent which is why these days I talk to him more when I need a good pep talk. 

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break Room / Re: The Status Of Our Fellow Raiders
« on: January 06, 2023, 12:31:07 PM »
I still don't exactly see how adhd isn't all that I am. Still my dad has a point about me feeling sorry for myself too much and needing to just get started on my comic.

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break Room / Re: The Status Of Our Fellow Raiders
« on: January 06, 2023, 06:24:46 AM »
@san
Funny thing you mentioned Garfield. I grew up in the small town where Garfield creator Jim Davis was born and my older sister went to the same university as him. I also can remember liking Garfield as a kid. I talked some with my dad yesterday. He says I doubt myself too much and am making a big deal out of nothing and should just get started on my comic as that's often the hardest part. He also said he can't wait to see it. I think he has a point. I do tend to feel sorry for myself too much.

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break Room / Re: The Status Of Our Fellow Raiders
« on: January 05, 2023, 11:13:28 AM »
Knowing me even if I was to finish a comic book even a short one I would still be critical of myself. I tend to be my own worst critic but it really doesn't help when others say I have adhd, which makes me feel like nothing I do matters. Still when I do draw even something simple I seem to feel a bit happier and it's been my dream for a while to be a comic book artist among other things. Since I was young I have always felt this strong need to express my creativity, however growing up I was told I had adhd and even put in special ed which I hated. This has caused me to have low self esteem from a young age. I just don't know what to do. I try to think of the future instead of the past but I keep getting blocked by thoughts such as what does it matter if I become a comic book artist when even if I do I will still have adhd. Still I have this dream and I've always been the type to follow my dreams but at the same time these doubts keep holding me back. I want so badly to finish at least a short comic by this spring but I doubt I can do it with all that's been holding me back for so long. I tried talking to my dad on the phone about it this morning but he was so busy getting my mom to her doctor appointment that he didn't have time to talk to me. Guess I'll try again later tonight.

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